When is it worth it to speak up?

I get my daily fix of motivation from a career
counselor blog called #claritygems. Today’s emailed post struck the question of why so many women ask themselves when conflict arises;

“Is it worth it to speak up?”

I often find myself disagreeing with a friend who raises an opinion that I fiercely disagree with, but in silence I think to myself, “Is this the right moment to start up conflict?”

(Here’s the blog post if you want to read more: Clarity Gems)

How often do you hear an opinion that doesn’t jive with you, but you keep your mouth shut anyways?

I’ve come to realize recently that for me it happens often, and I won’t speak up for myself. I fear conflict, the raising of voices, the tension introduced into a once cohesive relationship.

But what do I sacrifice by remaining silent?

I sacrifice honesty in that relationship. I sacrifice an opportunity to present more of myself to that person, and begin to resent others for the silencing I do to myself.

The Clarity Gems article goes on….. by silencing myself, I live out my dreams vicariously through others.

I cheer on others who find opportunities to sing in public.

I criticize my husband who takes time to play his favorite sports during his free time.

I get depressed and watch Netflix instead of doing an activity that brings me life!

By silencing myself, I silence the dreams I have for myself.

My word for 2016 is self-expression. I am not sure if I am ready for it yet, but I am going to make a promise to myself to express who I am and what I believe, and see if I can end the year feeling truer to who I am.